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earthquakes and disappearances but good news too
- Best thing that happened
- Hope got a job
- Worst thing that happened
- Denise going missing
As Christina once said, LiveJournal has stolen my
soul. I've gotten into it so much, that Mik's Months will now
mostly be a bunch of references to my LiveJournal. This means more
pointing and clicking for you, but less typing for me!
My First Earthquake!!
After 13 years of just missing them, sleeping through them, or
missing out on experiencing them for other flukey reasons, I
finally experienced my first earthquake! It wasn't major by
Californian standards, but everyone was talking about it
Hope got a job!
I can't express how excited I am about this! After over a year
of employment, Hope has a job—and she's working for NASA!! I'm so proud of
Hope's a jack of all trades when it comes to web work. She does
graphic design, HTML, and has done some web administration. NASA
is having her write a few scripts for image transfers, but they're also
picking her brain about the more technical and scientific aspects
of the project. Every time I've seen her since she got the job,
she's told me about the project, which sounds incredible. I so wish
I could be involved with it as well!
Amsterdam—It's Really Happening!
I received the air ticket I paid for last month, for my trip to Amsterdam. I'll be
living and working there from August until December—that's the plan,
anyhow. But I don't actually have anything lined up yet, and as this
LiveJournal entry shows, in the middle of this month I realised how much there was
to do. I panicked. But soon
afterwards I realised that I'd already done a lot of it, and I
still had plenty of time to do the rest.
I also decided this month to move out of home at the end of June, and just couch
surf for the first two weeks of July. My wonderful friends came to
the rescue and offered me plenty of places to stay, and as a
result, I'm saving over $500 in rent. I'll be spending the second
half of July driving to Texas, where my plane leaves from. This is
so I can visit various people in LA and Austin, check out New
Mexico, and get my last taste of the desert for a while.
Anyhow, I got the ticket for a good price—not much over
$1000—and now I just have to decide if I'm going to buy some
kind of a rail ticket for travelling around Europe. We'll
More Big Spending
In addition to the air ticket, I bought a new laptop this month.
After a lot of advice from friends about good, robust brands, I
settled on a Dell C800, which I purchased refurbished from a uBid auction. It hasn't arrived
yet, but I plan to install Linux on it, and make it my primary
computer. My existing computer, a laptop with a broken screen which
has been functioning as a desktop for a while, will stay in the
U.S, and function as a remote backup server for me.
My parents were nice enough to send me A$1000. I plan to spend
that to replace the digital camera that I had stolen in January.
For the first time since our divorce in December, and all
the emotional shit brought
up by her letter in January, I saw M.
The thing that moved me the most was how much she'd changed,
both physically and in personality. Physically, she's lost a
frightening amount of weight, and is now wearing contacts instead
of glasses. She looks ten years younger, in a way that disturbed
me. Or maybe it's just because she's acting so differently now as
well—the voluptuous, introverted, mature, no-nonsense woman is
gone, and she's been replaced by an outgoing, friendly, slim
The main thing that happened since I'd last seen her was being
diagnosed with depression, and being treated for it. This explains
sooooooo much!! My attitude to her has changed
completely, mostly because I now have a better understanding of
where she was coming from when we were living together. She just
had much more going on in her life than even she realised. I no
longer have to blame her for a lot of the stuff that I blamed her
for; I can blame her depression now.
It took me a while to analyse my feelings around meeting her.
One of the things that I was pondering over is the fact that I'm
still avoiding issues when I'm with her. I've always hated
avoiding issues with people, but over the years it became a habit
when I was living with her. There were various reasons for this,
some more valid than others, but those reasons are gone now, so why
am I still doing it? Clearly I've got more thinking to do.
But now that she's being treated, I have new hope for
reconciliation with her. There's no way that this can happen before
I go to Amsterdam, but we can make a start. I hope to see her at
least one more time before I leave.
As for what the day was like to be with her, well, it was fine,
apart from adjusting to the change. We went out to Folsom, a far
eastern suburb of Sacramento, and I walked alongside her as she
roller bladed by the river. We went for lunch afterwards, and
talked about our lives. She didn't ask after my life much—some
things haven't changed, I suppose—but she's definitely had a
bumpy ride over the last few months.
Denise had me, Hope, and a fair few
other people worried for a weekend when she didn't come down to
visit as arranged. She was supposed to arrive at about 5:00pm on a
Saturday night. I started ringing her at 7:30 to see if she was all
right, but never heard back. At 9:00, I still hadn't heard
anything. I decided that there was no point in me fretting at home,
so I went to Oakland Airport to pick
Rose up from a flight back from New
York. While waiting for Rose, I telephoned the California Highway
Patrol people to make sure that they weren't scraping Denise off a
After 24 hours and leaving several more voicemails with her, I
thought it was time to ring the police. I was on a beautiful date
with Hope at
the time, walking around Golden Gate Park at night in the City.
Since Denise is from Sacramento, I rang the cops there, and they
were very helpful. It felt like they were genuinely concerned for
my friend's wellbeing, which was nice, because I was still feeling
stung from the rather impassive Berkeley
police when my bag was stolen in
Everything turned out to be all right, though. The police
visited Denise at her home, and that prompted her to ring me to
tell me what happened. Apparently her car was having trouble on the
freeway, so she turned back home. She'd also lost her mobile
'phone, which was the only thing that had my telephone number, and
she thought it was the only way that she could access her
As I mentioned, I picked Rose up
from the airport after she got back from New York, and we were met
at home by her lovely friend from Toronto, Carol.
I described Carol as "enchanting" after I first met
her. The fact is, I thought she was one of the most beautiful
people I'd ever met, and I developed quite a crush on her. I went
especially to South Bay Bi
Coffee to meet up with her, but found myself struggling to come
up with anything to say. I've always sucked at small talk, so there
were a lot of awkward pauses.
Somehow, though, I managed not to look to foolish for her to
want to talk to me on the telephone the next day. During that
conversation, I learnt that a lot of the awkward pauses were just
her taking time to come up with a thoughtful response to what I had
to say. This made me feel more comfortable, but no less shy around
I got to see her one last time at Baycon. Something wonderful
happened when I saw her there...
I went to Baycon, a big
sci-fi conference that occurs annually in the South Bay for the first time as a
registered participant. It was a mixed experience, but overall I'm
really glad I went.
My department finally moved to the new floor at work. Now I have
a nice new cube, and although it's smaller than my old cube, it's
within view of a window. I even put mirrors up in it so I can look
out of the window just by turning my head. There are still
facilities missing from level 3, though, such as a toaster, and
they haven't finished all of the toilets. They're also dragging
their feet constructing the stair well to level 2—moving
between floors is currently a real pain. But I'm sure they'll get
all this sorted out eventually. Whether they do before I move to
Amsterdam remains to be seen...
My all-time favourite band, Midnight Oil, were in town,
so I went to see them. This was nothing like the concert they had
on my birthday last year, when I got to meet Peter Garrett, but it
was still an absolutely fantastic show! ( Read
Hope and I set aside a day to work
on our cars one weekend. We pulled her dashboard off and fixed the
climate control, and diagnosed problems with the indicator and dome
light. We set aside a second day to go to the wrecker and buy some
parts, but it ended up raining that day. At the moment, Hope is
driving around in a car without a dashboard. We really need to
schedule another car day!
This month, I saw a bit more of Diospyros than I
normally do. I met her to go hiking one afternoon, but we ended up
spending more time just vedging, and telling each other about our
new girlfriends. ( Read
more... ) She also hosted a party
for her birthday at the end of the month, so I got to actually meet
her new girlfriend, and a lot of her other friends. I really
enjoyed spending some fun, non-acupuncture time with her. But since
she's going to be in Europe for the majority of next month, it will
be some time before I even get to see her for that.
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